We spend so much of our energy in life avoiding resistance. I have come to believe this is an oversight in our human nature, in our journeys.
When we contemplate the most valuable things in life, material or immaterial, they do not come easy. And is that not in where their value lays? In economic terms what is scarce tends to carry the highest value or "cost".
There is not a huge line of people waiting to suffer or endure hardship, safe to say demand for suffering and hardship is pretty low. How much value do we place on the things that come easy, and doesn't this also to some extent encompass people and our relationships?
If we are going to be objective we can actually see the value of hardship. In business it requires us to work harder, smarter, be more creative, learn to have stamina. Being a Navy S.E.A.L. requires enduring "HELL WEEK" training and testing - but it forges some of the most formidable warriors on the planet that have capabilities above and beyond soldiering.
There are different kinds of resistance and suffering, there is the stuff that comes packaged in life experience and then there is suffering inflicted by means of cruelty, neglect, and or abuse.
There is also self imposed suffering that is entirely unnecessary. The stories we tell ourselves that are probably more often false than true, the internal whispers "they don't care" "if they cared they wouldn't do this" "they don't love me" "I can't" "If only"...
In terms of electricity, if there are not "resistors" then the power of the electricity would surge unbridled and wreak havoc and destruction on the equipment designed to harness and channel it's power. If we consider this analogy in life and understand that there is a sea of vast power, consciousness, for us to fully immerse ourselves in.
All the analogies of tempered steal, diamonds formed under intense pressure, gold being subjected to cruel heat in order to be refined, butterflies struggling out of their cocoons. These are all pictures that we can learn and benefit from, draw upon and recognize that as despite as how harsh life can be, even how cruel it often is that the resistance, the struggle, can serve us.
In the gym, without the resistance from the weights or machines, muscles would not be stretched and torn down so that they may grow back fuller, more dense, and stronger.
Through the journey the resistances we encounter can do many things. In simple terms they are our Yin or Yang, we may allow them to deepen the capacity of our character and living or harden us. It's really two paths or an abyss of the futile effort to escape all of it.
I spent many years in fleeing the difficult. The forms of escape can be subtle or blatant necessary addictions in the escape: Television, food, video games, work, sex, porn, alcohol, drugs, relationships, exercise, shopping, anything can serve as an escape and or an addiction. I would often rotate my vices but the patterns became clear over time and were no longer deniable after some self destructive behavior and bad choices.
Addictions can come in patterns of avoidance and or in a control facade when we feel our lives are out of control.
Someone once told be that bad choices or behavior don't imply bad character. Hearing this was like a cool breeze at the time. I felt hope... maybe I was acceptable, lovable after having so much in my life that was ugly, things I felt so bad about I didn't want to forgive myself, I didn't think I deserved forgiveness. I was my own worst judge and jury. And this in turn like an light bulb that was turned on in a dark basement of self torture.
Our success along the journey of life is determined by our attitude. Our attitude, like our lives or life experience is shaped by our thoughts. So how do we think well, think positively when there is so much negative happening all around us and often on such a horrific level? We need a healthy perspective.
The beginning of change comes with awareness and awareness stems from recognition, recognizing an issue or a need. Seeing that something is broken, not working and determining to face it rather than avoid it. Pain is a signal that something is wrong.
This is how our body communicates with us, it's also a barometer hardwired into our spirit or soul.
Allowing time for stillness in life is essential with or without pain. All the distractions can be a conglomeration of addictive distractions that allow us to be anywhere but in the present.
To weather life's storms we need the ability to center and create our own place of calm in the storm. Seeing pain, struggles, resistance for what they truly are and how they can even serve us provides a healthier perspective we can use as a compass.
Without some frame of reference we are all just lost or wandering.